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Connect with don Jose. We put all those programs inside our children the same way we train a dog. Humans are domesticated animals, and this domestication leads us into the dream of hell where we live in fear. The food for the Parasite is the emotions that come from fear. Before we get the Parasite, we enjoy life, we play, we are happy like little children. But after all that garbage is put into our minds, we are no longer happy.

We learn to be right and to make everyone else wrong. We have to impose our way of thinking, not just onto other humans, but even upon ourselves. Because we are wounded and we have all that emotional poison that we can hardly handle. We have seen how we create that image of perfection to please other people, even though they create their own dream that has nothing to do with us.

We try to please Mom and Dad, we try to please our teacher, our minister, our religion, and God. But the truth is that from their point of view, we are never going to be perfect. But guess what? This is the biggest lie we believe about ourselves, because we are never going to be perfect. And there is no way that we can forgive ourselves for not being perfect. That image of perfection changes the way we dream. We learn to deny ourselves and reject ourselves. We are never good enough, or right enough, or clean enough, or healthy enough, according to all those beliefs we have.

There is always something the Judge can never accept or forgive. That is why we reject our own humanity; that is why we never deserve to be happy; that is why we are searching for someone who abuses us, someone who will punish us. We have a very high level of self-abuse because of that image of perfection. When we reject ourselves, and judge ourselves, and find ourselves guilty and punish ourselves so much, it looks like there is no love.

It looks like there is only punishment, only suffering, only judgment in this world. Hell has many different levels. Some people are very deep in hell and other people are hardly in hell, but still they are in hell. There are very abusive relationships in hell and relationships with hardly any abuse. You are no longer a child, and if you have an abusive relationship, it is because you accept that abuse, because you believe you deserve it. You have a limit to the amount of abuse you will accept, but no one in the whole world abuses you more than you abuse yourself.

The limit of your self-abuse is the limit you will tolerate from other people. If someone abuses you more than you abuse yourself, you walk away, you run, you escape. But if someone abuses you a little less than you abuse yourself, perhaps you stay longer. You still deserve that abuse. I abuse you the way you need to be abused, and you abuse me the way I need to be abused. We have a good equilibrium; it works.

Of course, energy attracts the same kind of energy, the same vibration. The truth is he needs that abuse because that is the way he punishes himself. Life brings to you exactly what you need. There is perfect justice in hell. There is nothing to blame. We can even say that our suffering is a gift. Of course, he had a lot of experience trying to find love, and he had observed the people around him.

Wherever this man went, he used to tell people that love is nothing but an invention of the poets, an invention of religions just to manipulate the weak mind of humans, to have control over humans, to make them believe. This man was highly intelligent, and he was very convincing.

He read a lot of books, he went to the best universities, and he became a respected scholar. He could stand in any public place, in front of any kind of people, and his logic was very strong. What he said was that love is just like a drug; it makes you very high, but it creates a strong need.

Just like a drug, you need your everyday doses. He used to say that most relationships between lovers are just like a relationship between a drug addict and the one who provides the drugs.

The one who has the biggest need is like the drug addict; the one who has a little need is like the provider. The one who has the little need is the one who controls the whole relationship. You can see the way they manipulate each other, their actions and reactions, and they are just like the provider and the drug addict. The drug addict, the one who has the biggest need, lives in constant fear that perhaps he will not be able to get the next dosage of love, or the drug. The provider can control and manipulate the one who needs the drug by giving more doses, fewer doses, or no doses at all.

The one who has the biggest need completely surrenders and will do whatever he can to avoid being abandoned. Where is the respect? Where is the love they claim to have?

There is no love. Young couples, in front of the representation of God, in front of their family and friends, make a lot of promises to each other: to live together forever, to love and respect each other, to be there for each other, through the good times and the bad times.

They promise to love and honor each other, and make promises and more promises. What is amazing, is that they really believe these promises. But after the marriage — one week later, a month later, a few months later — you can see that none of these promises are kept. Who will be the provider, and who will have the addiction? You find that a few months later, the respect they swear to have for each other is gone. They stay together because they are afraid to be alone, afraid of the opinions and judgments of others, and also afraid of their own judgments and opinions.

But where is the love? The one with the strongest will and less need won the war, but where is that flame they call love? I will no longer allow anyone to manipulate my mind and control my life in the name of love. Then one day this man was walking in a park, and there on a bench was a beautiful lady who was crying.

When he saw her crying, he felt curiosity. Sitting beside her, he asked if he could help her. He asked why she was crying. We swore to each other our loyalty, respect, and honor, and we created a family. But soon everything changed. I was the devoted wife who took care of the children and the home. My husband continued to develop his career, and his success and image outside of home was more important to him than our family. He lost respect for me, and I lost respect for him.

Now the children are grown and they have left. I no longer have any excuse to stay with him. That is why I am crying. We look for love, we open our heart and we become vulnerable, just to find selfishness.

Why even search for love any longer? It was a wonderful relationship. They respected each other, and they never put each other down. With every step they took together, they were happy. There was no envy or jealousy, there was no control, there was no possessiveness.

The relationship kept growing and growing. They loved to be together, because when they were together they had a lot of fun. When they were not together, they missed each other. One day when the man was out of town, he had the weirdest idea. But this is so different from what I have ever felt before. We have the best time together; we enjoy each other. I respect the way she thinks, the way she feels.

They still respected each other, they were still supportive of each other, and the love grew more and more. Even the simplest things made their hearts sing with love because they were so happy.

He was looking at the stars and he found the most beautiful one, and his love was so big that the star started coming down from the sky and soon that star was in his hands. Then a second miracle happened, and his soul merged with that star. He was intensely happy, and he could hardly wait to go to the woman and put that star in her hands to prove his love to her.

As soon as he put the star in her hands, she felt a moment of doubt. This love was overwhelming, and in that moment, the star fell from her hands and broke in a million little pieces. And there is a beautiful old woman at home waiting for a man, shedding a tear for a paradise that once she had in her hands, but for one moment of doubt, she let it go.

Who made the mistake? Do you want to guess what went wrong? The star was his happiness, and his mistake was to put his happiness in her hands. Happiness never comes from outside of us. He was happy because of the love coming out of him; she was happy because of the love coming out of her. But as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness.

No matter how much the woman loved him, she could never make him happy because she could never know what he had in his mind. She could never know what his expectations were, because she could not know his dreams.

Then if happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love, you are responsible for your happiness. We can never make anyone responsible for our own happiness, but when we go to the church to get married, the first thing we do is exchange rings. That is the mistake most of us make right from the beginning.

We make all those promises that we cannot keep, and we set ourselves up to fail. YOU live in a fantasy where everything you know about yourself is only true for you. Your truth is not the truth for anyone else, and that includes your own children or your own parents. Just consider what you believe about yourself and what your Mother believes about you. She can say she knows you very well, but she has no idea who you really are. She has all those fantasies in her mind that she never shared with anyone else.

You have no idea what is inside her mind. If you look at your own life and try to remember what you did when you were eleven or twelve years old, you will hardly remember more than 5 percent of your own life. Of course you will remember the most important things, like your own name, because you repeat these all the time.

But sometimes you forget the name of your own children or your friends. Dreams have a tendency to dissolve, and that is why we forget so easily. We dream according to all the beliefs that we have, and we modify our dream according to the way we judge, according to the way we are victimized. That is why dreams are never the same for any two people. In a relationship, we can pretend to be the same, to think the same, to feel the same, to dream the same, but there is no way that can happen.

There are two dreamers with two dreams. Every dreamer is going to dream in his own way. We can have thousands of relationships at the same time, but every relationship is between two persons and no more than two.

I have a relationship with each one of my friends, and it is just between two. According to the way the two people dream, they create the direction of that dream we call relationship.

Every relationship we have — with Mom, with Dad, with brothers, with sisters, with friends — is unique because we dream a small dream together. Every relationship becomes a living being made by two dreamers. Just as your body is made by cells, your dreams are made by emotions. There are two main sources of those emotions: One is fear, and all the emotions that come from fear; the other is love, and all the emotions that come from love.

We experience both emotions, but the one that predominates in everyday people is fear. We can say that the normal kind of relationship in this world is based 95 percent on fear and 5 percent on love. Of course, this will change depending upon the people, but even if fear is 60 percent and love is 40 percent, still it is based on fear. These divisions are for the logical mind to understand and to try to have some control of the choices we make.

Love has no obligations. Fear is full of obligations. In the track of fear, whatever we do is because we have to do it, and we expect other people to do something because they have to do it. We have the obligation, and as soon we have to, we resist it. The more resistance we have, the more we suffer.

Sooner or later, we try to escape our obligations. On the other hand, love has no resistance. Whatever we do is because we want to do it. Love has no expectations. Fear is full of expectations. With fear we do things because we expect that we have to, and we expect that others are going to do the same. We blame others for not fulfilling our expectations. Love is based on respect. You cannot make your own choices. We feel sorry for them, and we try to do for them what they should do for themselves.

Fear is full of pity; it feels sorry for everyone. On the other hand, love respects. I love you; I know you can make it. I know you are strong enough, intelligent enough, good enough that you can make your own choices. You can make it. If you fall, I can give you my hand, I can help you to stand up. Compassion comes from respect and from love; feeling sorry comes from a lack of respect and from fear. Love is completely responsible. Trying to avoid responsibility is one of the biggest mistakes we make because every action has a consequence.

Everything we think, everything we do, has a consequence. If we make a choice, we have an outcome or a reaction. We are going to experience the consequence of our actions in one way or another. Other people can try to pay for your mistakes, but you will pay for your mistakes anyway, and then you pay double. When others try to be responsible for you, it only creates a bigger drama. Love is always kind. Fear is always unkind.

With fear we are full of obligations, full of expectations, with no respect, avoiding responsibility, and feeling sorry. How can we feel good when we are suffering from so much fear? We feel victimized by everything; we feel angry or sad or jealous or betrayed. Anger is nothing but fear with a mask. Sadness is fear with a mask. Jealousy is fear with a mask. With all those emotions that come from fear and create suffering, we can only pretend to be kind.

If you are in the track of love, you have no obligations, no expectations. You are feeling good about yourself, and because you are happy, you are kind. Love is always kind, and that kindness makes you generous and opens all the doors. Love is generous. Fear is selfish; it is only about me. Selfishness closes all the doors. Love is unconditional. Fear is full of conditions. In the track of fear, I love you if you let me control you, if you are good to me, if you fit into the image I make for you.

I create an image of the way you should be, and because you are not and never will be the image, I judge you because of that, and find you guilty. Many times I even feel ashamed of you because you are not what I want you to be. I am just pretending kindness. In the track of love, there is no if; there are no conditions.

I love you for no reason, with no justification. I love you the way you are, and you are free to be the way you are. Most people live their entire lives in the track of fear. They are in a relationship because they feel they have to be. They are in a relationship where they have all those expectations about their partner and about themselves. All that drama and suffering is because we are using the channels of communication that existed before we were born. People judge and are victimized, they gossip about each other, they gossip with their friends, they gossip in a bar.

They make their family members hate each other. They accumulate emotional poison, and they send it to their children. All men are like this; all women are like that. These rules affect the quality of the channels of communication between us, because when we are afraid, we lie. If you have the expectation that I have to be a certain way, then I feel the obligation to be that way. The truth is I am not what you want me to be. When I am honest and I am what I am, you are already hurt, you are mad.

Then I lie to you, because I am afraid of your judgment. I am afraid you are going to blame me, find me guilty, and punish me. And every time you remember, you punish me again and again and again for the same mistake.

In the track of love, there is justice. If you make a mistake, you pay only once for that mistake, and if you truly love yourself, you learn from that mistake. In the track of fear, there is no justice. You make yourself pay a thousand times for the same mistake. You make your partner or your friend pay a thousand times for the same mistake. This creates a sense of injustice and opens many emotional wounds. Then, of course, you set yourself up to fail.

Humans have dramas for everything, even for something so simple and so little. We see these dramas in normal relationships in hell because couples are in the track of fear.

In every relationship there are two halves of that relationship. One half is you, and the other half is your son, your daughter, your father, your mother, your friends, your partner. Of those halves, you are only responsible for your half; you are not responsible for the other half.

You can never know what that person feels, what that person believes, all the assumptions she makes. That is the truth, but what do we do? We try to be responsible for the other half, and that is why relationships in hell are based on fear, drama, and the war of control. If we are in a war of control, it is because we have no respect. It is selfishness, not love; it is just to have the little doses that make us feel good.

When we have no respect there is a war of control because each person feels responsible for the other. I have to be responsible for you, because whatever happens to you is going to hurt me, and I want to avoid pain. This is what happens when we come from the track of fear. Because there is no respect, I act as though you are not good enough or intelligent enough to see what is good or not good for you.

I make the assumption that you are not strong enough to go into certain situations and take care of yourself. If I take control of our whole relationship, where is your part? With the other half we can share, we can enjoy, we can create the most wonderful dream together. Then we have a choice: We can create a conflict and a war of control, or we can become a playmate and a team player.

Playmates and team players play together, but not against each other. If you are playing tennis, you have a partner, you are a team, and you never go against each other — never. Even if you both play tennis differently, you have the same goal: to have fun together, to play together, to be playmates. Instead of being a team, your partner wants to control how you play. And without the concept of a team, you are always going to have conflict.

If you see your partnership, your romantic relationship, as a team, everything will start to improve. You are playing because you want to have fun. In the track of love, you are giving more than taking. You are not going for revenge, but you are clear in your communication. I love to laugh; I love to have fun; I love to love. If you are in a relationship with me, it will be so hard for your Parasite, because I will not react to your garbage at all.

Selfishness, control, and fear will break almost any relationship. Generosity, freedom, and love will create the most beautiful relationship: an ongoing romance. To master a relationship is all about you. The first step is to become aware, to know that everyone dreams his own dream. Once you know this, you can be responsible for your half of the relationship, which is you. If you know that you are only responsible for half of the relationship, you can easily control your half.

It is not up to us to control the other half. If we respect, we know that our partner, or friend, or son, or mother, is completely responsible for his or her own half. If we respect the other half, there is always going to be peace in that relationship. There is no war. Next, if you know what is love and what is fear, you become aware of the way you communicate your dream to others.

The quality of your communication depends upon the choices you make in each moment, whether you tune your emotional body to love or to fear. If you catch yourself in the track of fear, just by having that awareness, you can shift your attention into the track of love.

Just by seeing where you are, just by changing your attention, everything around you will change. Finally, if you are aware that no one else can make you happy, and that happiness is the result of love coming out of you, this becomes the greatest mastery of the Toltecs, the Mastery of Love.

We can talk about love and write a thousand books about it, but love will be completely different for each of us because we have to experience love. Love is not about concepts; love is about action.

Love in action can only produce happiness. Fear in action can only produce suffering. The only way to master love is to practice love. Practice creates the master.

How would you describe your life with this person? Well, the way you relate with this person will be exactly the way you relate with a dog.

A dog is a dog. You are not going to change a dog for a cat or a dog for a horse; it is what it is. Just accepting this fact in your relations with other humans is very important. You cannot change other people. To try to change them to fit what you want them to be is like trying to change a dog for a cat, or a cat for a horse. That is a fact. They are what they are; you are what you are. You need to be completely honest with yourself — to say what you want, and see if you are willing to dance or not.

You must understand this point, because it is very important. When you truly understand, you are likely to see what is true about others, and not just what you want to see.

If you own a dog or a cat, think about how you relate to your pet. The animal knows how to have a perfect relationship with you. When your dog does something wrong, what do you do with your dog? But what about your girlfriend, your boyfriend, your husband, or your wife? They have so many expectations, and they are changing all the time. The dog is responsible for its half of the relationship with you. When you come home, it barks at you, it wags his tail, it pants because it is so happy to see you.

It does its part very well, and you know it is the perfect dog. Your part is almost perfect also. You handle your responsibility; you feed your dog; you take care of your dog; you play with your dog. You love your dog unconditionally; you will do almost anything for your dog.

Most people can easily imagine this kind of relationship with their dog, but why not with a woman or with a man? Do you know any woman or any man who is not perfect? The dog is a dog, and that is okay with you. Of course, you have to choose the right woman or the right man. And what is the right woman, the right man? Someone who wants to go in the same direction as you do, someone who is compatible with your views and your values — emotionally, physically, economically, spiritually.

How do you know if your partner is right for you? If there are a hundred women looking for a man, and each will look at you as a possibility, for how many of these women will you be the right man? That is why you need to explore and take the risk.

You are lucky if you find the right woman for you and at the same time you are the right man for her. She can be as honest as possible and project to you what she is. She will not come to you pretending to be something that you later discover she is not.

The one who loves you, loves you just the way you are. Because if someone wants to change you, it means you are not what that person wants. Then why is she with you? The dog loves you unconditionally. This is important. Then if your partner loves you just the way you are, it is just like the dog loves you. You can be yourself with your partner; you can be a man, or you can be a woman, just the way the dog can be a dog with you.

She can hardly wait to share her dream with you. But you cannot blame the other person for being a dog, or a cat, or a horse. If you want a dog, then why are you getting a cat? If you want a cat, why would you get a horse or a chicken?

You know the kind of man or woman that you want? The one who makes your heart sing, the one who is aligned with the way you are, the one who loves you just as you are. Why set yourself up for something else? Why not get what you want? Why pretend to make someone fit what she is not? It means you make a choice and say yes or no, because you love yourself also. You make a choice, and you are responsible for your choices.

Then if the choices are not working well, you do not blame yourself. You simply make another choice. Get a cat! This is the only way to begin a great relationship. First you have to know what you want, how you want it, when you want it. You have to know exactly what the needs of your body are, what the needs of your mind are, and what fits well with you.

There are millions of men and women, and each one is unique. You can love everyone; but to deal with a person on an everyday basis, you will need someone more closely aligned to you. You need to be honest with yourself, and honest with everyone else. In order to buy, you want to see the quality of what you are going to get. But in order to sell, you need to show others what you are. If you see what you want, why not take a risk? But if you see it is not what you want, you know you are going to pay for it.

This is the message. If you know what you want, you will find it is just like your relationship with your dog, but better. Of course, it can take years for us to learn this painful lesson, but this is a good beginning. If you make a good beginning, the rest is going to be easier because you can be yourself. Perhaps you already have a certain amount of time invested in a relationship.

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